If our child gradually distances himself from us during his growth process, it is because he sees through us and realizes that we are essentially failures. Not only do you not earn much money, but you may also have conservative and outdated thoughts, along with a bunch of bad habits. Moreover, your love for him may be conditional or purposeful. Besides saying "I care about you, study hard," you might really not be able to provide any substantial help to the child. In short, you are no longer the hero in the child's eyes.

As children grow up, if they have parents with a lower cognitive level, their rebellion may actually be a good thing. Because if a child is obedient and sensible when they are young, but later discovers that the principles you taught them do not apply in society, are ineffective, or even incorrect, then when they pay the price for being obedient and sensible in their early years, that moment causes your image in the child's mind to drop to the bottom.

Of course, even with such a child, there is a high probability that he will not be unfilial; he just won't communicate much with his parents, and he doesn't need any of your opinions or suggestions. In the future, the relationship with the child will only be one of blood ties, but there will always be a wall in between that you cannot push down. If this situation really occurs, I think we have no reason to say that the child is an ingrate. You can't say that you raised me through thick and thin, only to end up in such a situation. This is what parents often say, and the more you say it, the further you push the child away.

Most parents from underprivileged families are desperate to suppress, force, and control their children, even possibly denying them, because they do not want their children to live the same life they did. They want to mold their children into what they hope for. In the end, when the children grow up, you can't say they live the same life as their parents did, and the relationship may even deteriorate. Therefore, everyone should understand that the premise for a lasting relationship between people is mutual recognition, whether it is a friendship, a marital relationship, or a parent-child relationship.

So, most of us ordinary parents should not impose our wrong concepts on our children. There is always that saying, am I really harming you? I'm doing this all for your good. You subjectively have no intention of harming them, but objectively, due to insufficient ability and strength, you have indeed caused harm to their future and even their present. If what you said was right, you wouldn't have ended up like this, so as parents, the first thing we need to do is to clearly understand what we have, what we are, and what we can bring to our children.

If we have cognition and resources, of course everything will become very simple. If we have nothing, all we can bring to our children is sincerity and unconditional love for ourselves. If we are ordinary, we shouldn't pretend to be extraordinary, acting all authoritative; if we have no money or strength at home, we shouldn't put on a brave face or deceive ourselves. Our children are not fools, you know? They are very smart and perceptive; do you really think they don't know? We can only understand them all the way, support them, encourage them, and let them become themselves, rather than becoming our appendages.

If we can achieve these things, no matter how old the child becomes, your image will still shine brightly in their heart. Children respect their parents not just because you are their parents, but because, as parents, we have done things that earn their respect and have become people they respect. It is the presence of inadequate parents that leads to inadequate children on this planet. Children come with the imprint and influence of their parents. I believe the only thing we can truly change is ourselves. When we improve, become stronger, and excel, everything else will gradually get better. #Gate 2025 Q2报告出炉# #比特币巨鲸动向# #山寨季何时到来？#